Another Year Around The World

There’s so many ways to express the last year of your 30’s….

I remember easing into 30. At that time I was still throwing my big “Tavi Parties” and I passed around a box at the establishment with index cards and asked my guest to give me advice for my 30’s (I still have that box…hey I’m sentimental). I basically remember most advice was about really connecting with yourself, career, and making moves.

Heading into 40 next year I feel like I’ve grown more selfish with my time, selfish with my head space, and very selfish on who I will let enter into my life. I think my theme for my lovely last year of 30 is “Don’t Settle.” It’s 2:38am as I write this with no kids, no husband, and a beautiful free mind. The last few months I’ve been heavily working on me and weeding out distractions… AKA…

The “Men” that only hit you up through DMs, but never support your work. 👀

The “Women” who only call you to complain about men. 🙄

I want to head into my 40’s more selfish than ever. My mindset is I can have everything I want and my thoughts will lead the way. You will have people trying to get into your head and “tell you about yourself “ but I challenge you to evaluate those people you hold dear and really ask if they have your best interest in mind. It doesn’t matter the length of time you’ve known each other.

As an example I would have several people telling me I should be doing this and that with my blog and how they are so in my corner in helping me grow… blah blah blah. When I evaluated my friendship with them I realized they couldn’t even do the very basic which is like a post or comment (but had all the advice for me in the world and I can clearly see them liking our mutual friend post). Remember people will smile in your face, but talk shit about you behind your back. I prayed to God and suddenly this behavior I once overlooked was glaring me so brightly in the face that I had to let what I’m calling these “weird friends” go. No huge announcement…I just bounced. If I have to find ways in order to justify your behavior…that’s too much.

As I spend this last month heading into 39 I want to enjoy this peace. I hold no malice or hatred towards anyone. I want the haters to keep watching and motivating me, I want to continue to seek knowledge, and I truly appreciate the circle that I have built. I know some pretty wise men and women and I appreciate YOU!

I already have so many plans this #Leoseason and can’t wait to see what this last year of 30 holds. I believe with how my mindset is…this year will be nothing short of powerful. God Bless.

”Thank goodness social media be exposing people.”